~ Haruki Murakami
Three years ago, my mother was dying. She was 95 years old, had lived a great life, and was ready. Her journey to death took about six weeks, and my sister and I were able to share it with her as we sat at her bedside.
As heart wrenching as it was to see the physical changes taking place, it was awe-inspiring, too. Mom was conscious and lucid as she spoke to us about every day things. Then she’d look up towards the ceiling and tell us, excitedly, how she was seeing relatives and friends who’d been dead for years. Her brother had passed away a decade earlier. He was an artist, and Mom was thrilled watching him paint pictures for her-welcoming her upwards! She would say, “Oh, I wish you could see what I’m seeing!”
When Mom seemed agitated, I would touch her using the Bio-Touch points specific to stress. Almost immediately she would be calmer and breathe easier. She would smile and say, “You did that Bio-Touch on me, didn’t you?” She felt relief and so did I— I was grateful to have a helpful tool like Bio-Touch at my fingertips!
Death, like life, is a personal journey everyone experiences in their own unique way. And the care givers and/or loved ones of the dying person will be on a journey of their own as they witness this dying process.
Like my mother, the dying person may begin to see or speak to friends and relatives who have already died. Some people explain this as the veil being lifted between this life and the next, while other people believe these are hallucinations. Personally, I know my mother was not hallucinating.
The dying person may pick at their sheets and clothing in a state of agitation. They may have trouble swallowing food, liquids or medications or may refuse to take the medications prescribed. Other signs of the dying process:
- The body temperature lowers by a degree or more.
- The blood pressure lowers.
- The pulse becomes irregular and may slow down or speed up.
- There is increased perspiration.
- Skin color changes as circulation is diminished. This is noticeable on the lips and nail beds as they become pale and bluish.
- Breathing changes occur, often becoming more rapid and labored, then irregular and slower.
- Speaking decreases and eventually stops altogether.
- Periods of relaxation may be interrupted by sudden movements of arms and legs.
Rapid breaths followed by periods of no breathing at all, called Cheyne-Stokes breathing, may occur. Congestion in the airway can causing loud, rattled breathing. This change in breathing can be very uncomfortable for loved ones to hear, but does not appear to be unpleasant for the person who is dying.
Hands and feet may become blotchy and purplish (mottled). This mottling may slowly work its way up the arms and legs. The person usually becomes unresponsive and may have their eyes open or semi-open but not seeing their surroundings. Eventually, breathing will cease altogether and the heart stops.
Bio-Touch has been shown to help with breathing, ease agitation and pain, and relieve other symptoms of the dying process. While not a substitute for standard medical care, Bio-Touch is an effective complement to medical protocols. Family members and friends can learn how to help each other feel better using Bio-Touch, without being concerned about negative side effects.